Still learning

You don’t choose your family. 
They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them. 
Desmond Tutu
For a few months now, there has been lots of nagging questions popping up in my head. The kind having to do with the spiritual side of my life. Those unanswered questions showing up late at night when everyone is sleeping and I can hear myself think…
What is my life all about?  
What are the lessons I need to learn?
Who is my teacher? 
I have always been a firm believer that all of us chose our parents, prior to being born. They are our very first teachers. The ones who will guide us and give us the fundamentals of what our soul needs to be working on later in life.

Once this is understood, any family dynamic takes a different shape. It feels more like a classroom where you get to have teachers and fellow students. All those years I have been looking at my childhood as a learning experience. It was there, to give me what I needed to learn, to become who I had to be. Looking back this helped me understand the very rough patches. I did not think this way as a child. As a young woman struggling to find my way, it helped me find reason where there was none. Some of it was good and some of it not so much, but as a whole it has taught me a lot. Those early life lessons have prepared me to be the woman I am today .

Life is coming full circle and now is the time for me to go back home. I can finally make peace with it all, being able to look at the gift my parents actually are. Being grateful for having chosen them will allow me to really take in what they taught me. I am blessed to be able to do this. I know, as experience has shown us recently, we can not always say goodbye to those we love. The physical distance also allowed me to take more of an observer role and to get a fresh perspective. I feel grateful to finally be able to see it all with a forgiving and loving heart. In truth, it was part of the lessons I needed to learn. This is what I chose to believe ๐Ÿ™‚
Here we are, my last Vision and Verb post until the New Year. I wish all of you a wonderful and festive time with every one you love, whether you celebrate Christmas or not. A New Year filled with love, health and fresh perspectives is my wish for you all.

Cross-posted over  at  Vision and Verb   where a collaborative group of like-minded women from all over the world share their passion for photography and the written word.  


I will be unable to comment back until sometime this coming Monday.
I will be sure to come and visit all of you once I am in France ๐Ÿ™‚



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  1. Uma, A peaceful heart is what I am longing for :-)Hilary, Thank you for thinking of us :-)Anonymous, After all these years I still find out how much growing up I have to do ;-)Brian, It must be part of everyone,s journey to finally cherish our parents lessons :-)Kass, we are all doing a bit of the same, aren't we?Jennifer, coming full circle indeed :-)radicalamazement, Thank you :-)Isabelle, I like the role changing you speak of ๐Ÿ™‚


  2. We all learn from each other; sometimes we are teachers, sometimes students… best exercise to understand/accept our family is James Redfield's "The Celestine Prophecy: An experimental guide"…. appreciate every moment ๐Ÿ™‚


  3. It's an interesting idea that we get to choose our circumstances to work through in this life. I'm still learning from the experiences and words my parents laid out for me.Nice post.


  4. i hope that your travels are as warm as your words…and you do cherish those parents for the role they played in who you became…there was a time i did not appreciate this as much but do so now…


  5. Excellent post and a good thought choosing your parents. I have grown up this past year for the first time really. My childish view of the world thinking that I was owed and explanation or a least an apology. Everybody does their best even if it isn't good enough for me.I feel peaceful and calme these days living in my own truth. I have enjoyed your post this year. Happy traveling. Grace-Letting-go


  6. I chose to believe that to Anyes, this post resonates deeply with me and the experiences I've been through with my own parents in the past four years. I wish you safe travels and a peaceful heart.


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