“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other,
but in looking outward together in the same direction”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Relationships in my mind are there to teach us the lessons we need to be learning. Marriage is a perfect example this type of learning environment. Over the span of twenty years even if I often doubted it, I can now safely say that have found my soul mate. Let me clarify the term soul mate, it is not meant to be taken as the “Hollywood” version of the term, the falsely romanticized one but rather in the more realistic sense of the term:
Elizabeth Gilbert writes:
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
I like her way of looking at it. Someone we would meet to work on ourselves, a classroom partner if you will with whom we would work on lessons together. From personal experience I can tell you it is not something easy. In fact most times it is quite challenging and patience is often required. However looking back and seeing Lovely Husband’s and my journey together so far, I can say we met each other for something bigger than we could understand at the beginning and I am glad he is the one travelling with me on this journey.
My intention for this year was to reconnect with lost love and I think it is the way it will be…to find each other again…
Tell me dear friend…What is your take on soul mates?